She is healing......

Life can be funny. Not in a laughing way but how strange things work. It was only five months ago, yet five months felt like a lifetime. One can’t follow a guide line for what you go through or how things will be or work out. We all go down similar paths yet they can be so different. I read that it could take months, sometimes years or even a lifetime to get over your spouses infidelity. This shocked me to the point of never feeling right again. I was scared to think it would hurt so much for so long. How would I survive months, years of this pain and hard ache? I was not dealing well after just a few months.

So it’s funny that he would make a gesture to renew our vows a few weeks ago and I was thrilled beyond words. He could have been just trying to make good, but he was so moved when we stood there receipting our vows, the look on his face, the tears in his eyes and the way he was so moved by what he was saying to me. I believed him totally. I smiled uncontrollable I could feel his words through my whole body. I believe he meant every thing he said and that he will do right by me the rest of his life or mine. Every thing was so right last week and every thing since we arrived home.

One has to find the point of it being done, over and put things away in the past where it belongs. I will never forget what has happened after all it brought us so much closer. It was also a wake up call for the both of us. I will continue to work on me and in time I believe he will find answers to why this has happened to him and us. I no longer blame myself for what happened or think that it was done just to me. I can be loved and deserve to be loved. Things happen, life goes on and once you forgive someone they need to know you mean it. I do and I won’t punish him or myself any longer for something I can’t change. All I can really do is take care of me and be the best I can be. I am healing, I hope any one who reads this can find their way to a forgiving place and be happy any way they can. If two people are meant to be together it will work out.